Day 334:
Boost your self-esteem by making your new-year's resolutions.
Earlier we suggested you boost
your self-esteem by reviewing the past year. Yesterday we suggested you
boost your self-esteem by previewing the next year. Today we continue along
the same vein by developing your new-year's resolutions. Yesterday we suggested
you go whole hog and dream big. In the case of new years resolution it is important
to go slowly and make sure you do not set yourself up for failure.
We have written before that there is no such thing as failure and you learn
new things when things do not go the way you expected. The problem with new
years resolution is that you do them once a year so it will be a long time before
you may apply the lessons learned this year. Thus it is best to make sure you
make the right resolutions first time.
The problem with the way that most people do their resolutions is that they
make such huge demands on themselves that by January second they break half
their resolutions and by the end of January they have broken most if not all
of their resolutions. The reasonable way of choosing your resolutions is to
be very reasonable. That is challenge yourself slightly but go for things you
know you can do.
Use the rules for setting goals in writing your resolution:
- Rule one of well written goals: Goals must be written
in the positive (or write it the way you want it).
- Rule two of well written goals: Write your goals
down in the present tense.
- Rule three of well written goals: Keep it simple.
- Rule four of well written goals: Have your goals
for yourself.
- Rule five of well written goals: Keep your goal
realistic while you dream your wildest dream.
- Rule six of well written goals: Your goals need have
an achievement time.
- Rule seven of well written goals: Make your goals
specific.
- Rule eight of well written goals: Think of all
consequences of your goal from an ecological point of view.
- Rule nine of well written goals: Have a way of
measuring the achievement of your goals
Suppose you want to reduce your weight you this is the WRONG way of making
a resolution: "I'll lose forty pounds." Problems with the above resolution:
- The word lose is a negative word. I want you to think about what you
do when you lose something? Chances are you look for it and make sure you
get it back. That how come people lose so much weight and then find all that
weight back and then some. It is called the yo-yo syndrome.
- There is no way of knowing if you have reached the goal since it is not
timed. Hence you may reduce your weight by one pound or even gain ten pounds
and your unconscious mind still believes you are on your way toward reducing
your weight by forty pounds.
- The goal is too large and hence most people give up before they even
start.
Here is the same resolution in a reasonable achievable format,"I reduce
my weight by twenty pounds by December 31 this coming year." This is a
doable goal. It is written in present tense using positive words (reduce rather
than lose). It is simple and you can know if you are achieving your goal. You'll
need to reduce your weight by slightly less than half a pound a week. Research
has shown that unless you are highly overweight this is a good sustained rate
of weight reduction. In order to achieve this rate you'll need to reduce you
calorie intake/expenditure balance by two hundred calories a day. In the Michelangelo
Weight Management SystemTM we aim for reduction
of thirty pounds a year through reduction of three hundred calories a day. We
produce this three hundred calorie reduction by reducing your intake by one
hundred calories a day. Exercising an extra hundred calories a day and boosting
your basal metabolic rate by one hundred calories a day through the use of hypnosis.
Make resolutions in all areas of your life: health; relationships; career;
finances; education; care of the soul; spirituality. Make the resolutions easy
to keep and start the new year with hope and love....
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